Lesbian Battering

IS LESBIAN BATTERING THE SAME AS STRAIGHT BATTERING?

Similarities:

No one deserves to be abused.
Abuse can be physical, sexual, verbal behavior to coerce or humiliate, emotional or psychological.
Abuse often occurs in a cyclic fashion.
Abuse can be lethal.
The purpose of the abuse is to maintain control and power over one's partner.
The abused feels also, isolated, afraid and usually convinced that the abuse was somehow her fault or could have been avoided if only she had known what to do.

Lesbians who have been abused have much more difficulty in finding appropriate support than straight women.
The myth prevails that lesbian abuse must be "mutual." No one assumes straight abuse is mutual.
Utilizing existing services is tantamount to 'coming out' and a major decision.
Support services and friends often minimize lesbian violence for several reasons--because the lesbian community doesn't want to destroy the myth of a 'lesbian utopia,' because the battered women's movement doesn't want to destroy their myth of 'all violence is caused by men,' because it is easy to fall into the trap of assuming that the size of a person has anything to with with battering.
To complain about lesbian abuse is to reinforce the stereotype that lesbians are 'sick.' No one would claim straight relationships in general are mentally because there is sometimes abuse.
Lesbians have to face not only the sexist culture, but also a homophobic one as well. A woman of color must face sexism, homophobia, AND racism.
Lesbian survivors may know few or no other lesbians; leaving the abuser could mean total isolation.
Lesbians usually aren't as tied financially to their partners as are straight women.
The lesbian community is small, and in all likelihood everyone the survivor knows will soon know of her abuse.

Source: Minnesota Coalition for Battered Women:

Confronting Lesbian Battering Manual.